If you’re only just out or if you’re only just single and venturing into the LGBT online dating world for the first time, then you’d be forgiven for feeling a little bit nervous!

You’re afraid to break any unwritten rules and afraid about your newly hatched LGBT self? That’s normal! No need to worry…everyone was a newbie at some point and the best thing you can tell yourself when your self-confidence wanes, is that dating in the LGBT world isn’t that far from that of the straight world…people just want other people to be nice!

It doesn’t matter whether you’re looking for a fully-fledged relationship or a fling, the rules are more or less the same as they are in the real world…be polite and considerate and remember that we’re all here for the same thing! To find fun and love.

When I was first out and proud, I wasted NO time in telling the world that I was gay…and the result was that I did in fact get asked on a lot of dates! I was surprised by the amount of people I knew already who were gay or curious….and I did take advantage of that and had a lot of fun.

Whatever you’re looking for, be clear…let people know if you want to find that special someone, on first contact! Equally let them know if you’re just looking for a good time. That way there’ll be no broken hearts and misunderstandings.

Gay, bi, straight…people are people and have feelings so remember to treat others as you’d want to be treated.

What does that mean?

You might have noticed a lot of acronyms, slang terms or abbreviations being used on dating sites in general and if you’re not too sure of the meaning of some of them that are regularly used in the LGBT dating world, here’s a little glossary of some of the most commonly used.


  • Bi – Bisexual
  • A – Asian
  • BIF – bisexual female
  • BIM – bisexual male
  • CD – cross dresser
  • Bear – bearded male, often of a larger build than average
  • Fem – A gay male who acts in a more feminine fashion
  • Masc – A gay male who acts in a masculine/straight fashion
  • POS – HIV positive

If you’re ever unsure of an abbreviation or slang term’s meaning, just ask! People don’t judge you for not knowing all the lingo; everyone has to learn at some time!

Practice safe sex though and be sure to let someone you trust know where you’re going if you arrange to meet someone…and remember to choose a public place for your first meeting, that way if you’re uncomfortable, you can end the meeting at any time.